The Mellow Mama Podcast
Kaitlyn
Open conversation and discussion around conscious living and parenting inspired by all of my favorite books, resources and of course my own personal experience as a mom and person.
Open conversation and discussion around conscious living and parenting inspired by all of my favorite books, resources and of course my own personal experience as a mom and person.
Shared Regulation Tools that Actually Help
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In this episode, we explore shared regulation — what it is, why it matters, and how to use simple, practical tools to support your child during big emotions while staying grounded yourself. You’ll learn how your nervous system shapes your child’s experience, what co-regulation looks like in real life, and how to move from control-based reactions into connection-based responses. For parents who want to lead with calm, presence, and compassion — even on hard days. More resources and offerings: www.themellowmama.org Find me on social: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themellowmama TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@themellowmama If this episode supported you, please take a moment to leave a 5-star review. It helps more parents find the show and means more than you know! The Mellow Mama
We throw the word disrespect around a lot, but what does it actually mean? In this episode, we slow things down and take a closer look at what respect truly is, whether it can be demanded or only earned, and how our own nervous system, childhood experiences, and expectations shape the way we perceive it. We explore: What we often label as “disrespect” (in kids, partners, and even ourselves) The difference between behavior, boundaries, and meaning-making How respect is built through connection, safety, and modeling Practical ways to give respect first—without abandoning yourself This conversation is an invitation to soften, reflect, and reframe—so we can show up with more clarity and compassion in our relationships. Mellow Moments: Gentle pauses, grounding reflections, and simple practices for real-time nervous system support. Resources: Visit www.themellowmama.org for courses, guides, and supportive resources to help you parent (and live) with more ease and intention. Connect with The Mellow Mama: Instagram: @themellowmama TikTok: @themellowmama_ YouTube: The Mellow Mama Website: www.themellowmama.org If this episode resonates, share it with a friend or leave a review— I'm grateful for you.
“Oh, just wait until they’re teenagers then come talk to me...” If I had a dollar for every time, ... well I'd only have like 20 dollars, but you get what I'm saying. This is a super common fear-based response or really, defense, to conscious child-rearing. I'm here to lovingly counter that this philosophy is precisely what we need in preparation for the teen years with our growing children, and in this conversation, I’m joined by Kirsten Cobabe to talk honestly it. To peel back the layers on the warning of “good luck once you have teens” to find it is not only unhelpful, but deeply inaccurate. We'll discuss how conscious parenting doesn’t fall apart as children grow, but instead becomes the foundation for trust, emotional safety, communication, and lasting connection during the next wave of formative growth in our children's lives. (And ours if we let it be that.) When we parent with awareness, regulation, and respect early on, we aren’t setting ourselves up for disconnection later. We’re building a relationship our future teens will need more than ever. This episode is for parents who want to: Release fear-based narratives around adolescence Understand how conscious parenting supports teens’ need for autonomy and connection Feel reassured that the work they’re doing now truly matters long-term Envision teenage years rooted in trust, honesty, and mutual respect Connect with Kirsten Cobabe Website: https://www.kirstencobabe.com/ Instagram: @kirstencobabe Mellow Mama Resources Website and all offerings: https://www.themellowmama.org The Parenting + Re-parenting Course Mellow Moments YouTube: The Mellow Mama Instagram: @themellowmama TikTok: @themellowmama_
In this episode we take a look at the significant impact our childhood and adolescent experiences have on our ability to communicate and connect in our romantic partnerships as adult people, helpful tools for conflict, and some simple adjustments to step away from old patterns and into new, intentional ones. Thank you for listening! Follow: @meet_thefreemans @themellowmama Support the show
Continuing our mini book club series for Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Chapter 3, Observation without Evaluation is so powerful & a practice to start for more peaceful days as a person and parent. My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Books to Read: Punished by Rewards, Alfie Kohn Unconditional Parenting, Alfie Kohn Teaching Johnny to Think, Leonard Peikoff Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be Support the show
In this episode I uncover the root issue of almost all uncomfortable circumstances, interactions with our children, with our loved ones, and within ourselves... Self-esteem and our "scale" of lovability that was cultivated for us by our parents and their parents and so on. Let's break down the real definition of self-esteem and how each and every person is deserving of this feeling of worthiness, of value, of lovability along with how to unravel the subconscious need in many of us to seek outward evidence of that within ourselves and prevent our children from ever needing to do the same. Support the show
In this episode we'll go over a simple mindset shift that will dramatically improve your relationship with your children, help you become a more conscious, present individual, and honestly... just enjoy being a parent so much more. For my Course and other Products: www.themellowmama.org Instagram: @themellowmama TikTok: @themellowmama_ Youtube: The Mellow Mama Support the show
Chappell Roan commented that parents are “in hell” a while back, and whie the internet reacted—some offended, some defensive, and some a little more objective, I thought I'd make an episode about my perspective! If you’ve ever felt trapped, resentful, or quietly unhappy while loving your kids beyond measure, this conversation will help you understand why—and potentially what to adjust. Connect With Me Website https://www.themellowmama.org Instagram https://www.instagram.com/themellowmama YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@themellowmama Support the show
"How is your baby sleeping?" "Is she sleeping through the night?" "Oh he's not in a crib yet?" "Oh she's in a floor bed?" "How many naps does she take?" ... I could keep going on and on, but you get it. Sleep is one of the most interesting and challenging aspects of life as a parent, AND... life as a new person! Learning your baby while they learn their body and about the world around them, their level of safety and security, your availability... it can all be so, well, exhausting! But in this episode I wanted to ease some of the pain by simply focusing on what we CAN control (our mindset), what IS developmentally normal, what IS true when it comes to our babies and their sleep. I hope it's empowering and helpful for you to listen. Taylor's Instagram: @taylorkulik Taylor's Website: Taylorkulik.com My webiste/course: www.themellowmama.org My Instagram: @themellowmama Support the show
In this episode I discuss how I view emotional regulation and dysregulation as well as how to set yourself up for success as a parent and person. If you find yourself losing it, yelling, or resorting to old habits and patterns that you don't like with your children or spouse, this episode is for you. My Online Course: www.themellowmama.org Instagram: @themellowmama TikTok: @themellowmama_ Work with me! sappkaitlyn@yahoo.com Support the show
While I'm all about sharing specific examples regarding a conscious relationship with our children, without a grasp on the ego and it's influence in every day interactions, REactions, and behavior... it will surely remain a challenge to implement. For this reason, I've decided to do a 4-episode long mini book club of Eckhart Tolle's book, "A New Earth" in hopes to give a thorough overview of what the Ego even is, where it comes from in us, both individually and societally, and what it looks like in real time throughout your day and life with your children and everyone else. Moving forward with this awareness will allow for more peace, more joy, more confidence and fulfillment for you as a parent, a spouse, and the beautiful person that you are. I hope you enjoy, and stay tuned for the next 3 episodes! : ) Instagram: @themellowmama TikTok: @themellowmama_ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wKqMWEJeFZc The Book! Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth Support the show
Hear what my dad has to say about Conscious Parenting! My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Books to Read: Punished by Rewards, Alfie Kohn Unconditional Parenting, Alfie Kohn Teaching Johnny to Think, Leonard Peikoff Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be Support the show
One of the most common questions I receive as a parenting coach and consultant is "How do I get __________ on board with respectful parenting?" Usually referring to spouses, grandparents and in-laws. People often wonder or assume that because I confidently teach this methodology that I myself was raised with it, but it is in fact not the case at all! My mom was willing to have a vulnerable open discussion with me during this episode about her first impression of what I share and practice, her own experience as a mother to me and my three siblings, and lots more. I hope that hearing her perspective and mindset shift as well as experience as well as my interpretation of all of it, the before, after and in-between, will be valuable to you in navigating this for yourselves and your families. Support the show
In this first episode I simply introduce myself and my intentions for The Mellow Mama Podcast. After years of simplifying and sharing the work and ideas of so many incredible physicians and experts in the field of conscious living and childrearing online, I've decided to bring it here to the podcast format for more conversation, community and overall accessibility to people and parents everywhere. My intention is and will always be to give away my take on great information with the hopes of also giving away my experience as a mom, which has been one full of presence, healing, connection, authenticity and joy. For real. Support the show
I hope this is helpful and promotes more peace in your day! Love, Kait My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be
Adjust these 4 habits & watch your entire relationship shift. I hope this is helpful and promotes more peace in your day! Love, Kait My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be Support the show
So much that has been normalized that simply isn't "normal" or healthy & helpful in parenting... In this episode I discuss some as well as all that was and is normal that has been shamed, criticized, and repressed. I hope this is helpful and promotes more peace in your day! Love, Kait My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be
Here are some things that helped me as I traveled along solo with my children a couple of weeks ago & some thoughts/reflections I had during and after! My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be Support the show
In this episode I talk all I could think of in the category of "Things Moms miss out on." My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be Support the show
Just a simple discussion around the basics! Understanding what conscious parenting really is and what it isn't so you can move forward more confidently in your daily parenting practice and relationships. Support the show
A little breakdown on setting limits and boundaries with our children in a respectful way. Not a simple, easy task... but definitely one worth more consideration than, "because I said so." Support the show
In this episode I share with you my favorite and most fundamental for having great days and fostering an awesome relationship with my children and really... anyone. Support the show
A new mini book club series on another one of my all-time favorite books! Nonviolent Communication by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg. Starting with the first two chapters & developing a foundation for healthier communication skills with anyone in your life focusing on these four pillars: Observations, Feelings, Needs, and Requests. As we proceed with reviewing this material you will feel more confident in expressing yourself, but even more importantly... become a better listener and observer. Getting more in-tune and deeply curious about the people around you and what it is they really need and are asking for. Even if... if isn't being asked for in a nonviolent way. Here's my course and other online products! www.themellowmama.org Instagram: @themellowmama TikTok: @themellowmama_ YouTube: The Mellow Mama Support the show
In this episode, I share seven things I’m bringing more awareness to this year to cultivate greater calm, presence, and emotional safety in our home. These are simple, honest shifts that don’t require perfection, but do invite consistency, compassion, and my favorite, curiosity, into our daily life as a family. This conversation is for the parent who wants to feel more steady/grounded, less reactive, and more connected — and who understands that nervous system regulation is a family practice, not an individual one. If you’re craving more peace in your body, your parenting, or your relationships, this episode offers grounded reflection and practical guidance to support a calmer year ahead. Grateful you're here listening, MM Explore more support and resources: Online courses and Melo Moments: https://www.themelomama.org Connect with me on social: Instagram: @themelomama TikTok: @themelomama_ YouTube: @themelomama Support the show
Continuing our mini book club series for Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Chapter 5: Taking Responsibility for our Feelings, is so powerful & a practice to start for more peaceful, emotionally liberating days as a person and parent. My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be Nonviolent Communication, Marshall Rosenberg https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2OASM9KB5UUN3&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.poMkMJ4iZ5d0y1PXK11VfsqbnV1cfr5JT8ajk0qHO4YxYVmFo5EcS5sYctq_WPwBgygGP59v0QgrXrniIJV3oqca8LJPEc9VCXqTFVtd60cLSxLJgrZB8z96R5Uu6JF7U5OrE5v4FLf4ahYxyFQN3tVlxRIy8elwhSl2wir3ThbKhdtK7y7DQrWlFPci-bs8eDNxnU7ZrEgJ6Mv3e2MFWHgRWYNBRJIjMhJow7KiO5c.Cv9WFtgmn_7WkbEUzg9dlyHkw0runRhO8QgBNNkv_GU&dib_tag=se&keywords=nonviolent+communication+by+marshall+rosenberg&qid=1710387431&sprefix=nonvio%2Caps%2C900&sr=8-1 Support the show
Continuing our mini book club series for Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Chapter 3, Observation without Evaluation is so powerful & a practice to start for more peaceful days as a person and parent. My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Books to Read: Punished by Rewards, Alfie Kohn Unconditional Parenting, Alfie Kohn Teaching Johnny to Think, Leonard Peikoff Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be Support the show
In this episode we're talking all about the Pain Body! What it s, what is looks like and feels like and how it inevitably effects all of your relationships, but especially the relationship you have with your children. Support the show
In this episode we discuss how nutrition and parenting consciously go hand-in-hand. My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be Support the show
In this episode, we'll continue our discussion on Eckhart Tolle's book, A New Earth. This time focusing on Chapter 6, and becoming free from the Pain Body. If you have ever felt shame around being ... less than "mellow," ... if the concepts of Conscious parenting don't come easily or naturally to you, this episode will help you look at your patterns in a new light. My hope is that you listen to this and feel empowered, encouraged, uplifted AND equipped moving forward into more present days to come. Here's my course: www.themellowmama.org Instagram: @themellowmama TikTok: @themellowmama_ YouTube: The Mellow Mama The book discussed here: A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle Support the show
Madisun Gray in the house! If you've ever thought that your life is too crazy, your kids are too wild, and you don't have the patience to truly implement conscious parenting in your lifestyle... We have brought this episode to tell you that maybe none of that is actually true! Perhaps your pace of living and doing and go, go, go-ing is making a conscious awareness to life and parenting impossible for you. Or at the very least, hard. It's time to romanticize your life, from the way your curtains blow in the breeze when you open a window, to the softness of your sweet baby's belly during nap time cuddles... we want you to slow down, to soften, to enjoy. To be here, right now and to take that mindset of richness with you moving forward. Hope you enjoy! Here's where to find us! Madisun Gray on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@MadisunGray Madi's Incredible Course! https://madisungray.teachable.com/p/wholehearted The Mellow Mama on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJKIYRVNQhGQUyUGqBq0D0A My Parenting Course! www.themellowmama.org Support the show
Continuing our mini book club series for Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Chapter 6 is all about how to actually make requests and have your needs met. My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be Nonviolent Communication, Marshall Rosenberg https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2OASM9KB5UUN3&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.poMkMJ4iZ5d0y1PXK11VfsqbnV1cfr5JT8ajk0qHO4YxYVmFo5EcS5sYctq_WPwBgygGP59v0QgrXrniIJV3oqca8LJPEc9VCXqTFVtd60cLSxLJgrZB8z96R5Uu6JF7U5OrE5v4FLf4ahYxyFQN3tVlxRIy8elwhSl2wir3ThbKhdtK7y7DQrWlFPci-bs8eDNxnU7ZrEgJ6Mv3e2MFWHgRWYNBRJIjMhJow7KiO5c.Cv9WFtgmn_7WkbEUzg9dlyHkw0runRhO8QgBNNkv_GU&dib_tag=se&keywords=nonviolent+communication+by+marshall+rosenberg&qid=1710387431&sprefix=nonvio%2Caps%2C900&sr=8-1 Support the show
What roles have we cultivated for ourselves to prove our lovability and value to the people and world around us? How does identifying with these roles impact us and our children? In this episode we are breaking down allllll the roles and the reason for them as well as the alternative that is truly going to give us what we want: Real authentic connection and a deep sense of recognition. Here's my course: www.themellowmama.org Instagram: @themellowmama TikTok: @themellowmama_ YouTube: The Mellow Mama The book discussed here: A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle Support the show
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Are you concerned that your children need to "Learn their lesson" when they make a mistake or a bad decision? Do you think punitive measures are the best methodology for learning in those moments for our children? Did they work well for us? In this episode I'll help parents really think more deeply about this concept by reflecting on a real-life experience with my almost 5-year-old son this past winter and how my son got a very clear understanding of the consequences of his actions in a healthy way... Thank you so much for listening, XO, MM My Online Course: https://parenting-and-re-parenting-guide-10.teachable.com/p/parenting-and-re-parenting-guide-1-0 Use code: SUBSCRIBER10 for 10% off! My Activity Book for Kids: https://www.themellowmama.org/products/p/something-to-do-activity-hard-cover My Podcast: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1627338093 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/30VcU5rDDPE9QuPlYIcz0B Instagram: @The Mellow Mama TikTok: @themellowmama_ Support the show
In this episode we hear from Lydia, an elementary school teacher committed to a conscious approach to raising and in her case, teaching children. My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Books to Read: Punished by Rewards, Alfie Kohn Unconditional Parenting, Alfie Kohn Teaching Johnny to Think, Leonard Peikoff Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be Support the show
I chose to do this episode for all of the women and mothers specifically who, like me, wanted a resource to become more empowered, excited and confident when it comes to investing, building and managing wealth... Allegra tailored Factora Wealth with exactly that demographic in mind and I am so happy to be a part of her community, and now her a part of mine. Being what you wish to teach your children includes this very important, yet uncomfortable for some, detail. How do we view, manage, and build wealth? What shifts can we make for a healthier, more educated, empowered experience with money? Allegra and I will talk about that in this episode! Thanks for listening, XO Factora Website: https://www.factorawealth.com/ Instagram: factora_wealth My website/Course: www.themellowmama.org Instagram: @themellowmama TikTok: @themellowmama_ Support the show
In this episode of The Mellow Mama Podcast we're diving deep into the world of conscious parenting—what it really is, what it isn't, and the biggest myths that might be holding you back. From the misconception that conscious parenting means letting kids "do whatever they want" to the truth about setting boundaries with curiosity and compassion, we're uncovering the reality behind this powerful practice. If you've ever wondered whether conscious parenting is too "woo woo" or unrealistic, this episode is for you. Listen in as we break down the misconceptions, share practical insights, and help you parent with more awareness, connection, and confidence. My Course: https://www.themellowmama.org/teacher-training Mellow Moments: https://www.themellowmama.org/products Instagram: @themellowmama YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_f3dhVUINH4&feature=youtu.be Support the show